Jenny from Perth writes – my partner is the life of the party, women and men adore him. But at home, he gets angry at us for the silliest reasons and never nice words me or our kids, always putting us down. Should I stay or leave him?

Hello Jenny. A lot of men are like your man. I myself am similar although out of love I try and moderate myself.

In no way am I saying that physical abuse is acceptable. Don't get me wrong on that. I also don't put anyone down because I love these people.

At some point you do need to find a quiet moment to have sensible chat with your man. Point out how his words are hurting you and the family. Ask him if he realises what's happening. That none of you are enjoying it. See what he says?

I have a "fat pussy" and I'm super self cautions about it. Do guys think it's gross?

So are we to be consigned to the kerb by the people who are supposed to love us? I can't understand the why of who I am at all.

Be blessed.

It's just that my mouth speaks before my brain thinks at random moments. My wife does remind me from time to time. I say sorry and yes dear frequently.

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Nothing is more important to me than my wife and family. I love them. To date my wife loves me enough to see the good in me rather than only the bad. I try for her.

Unless actual harm is occurring I'd ask you to stay. We men need our wives and families. Really we do.

It's actually hard even though I adore my wife and our family. Why I have often asked myself? It makes no sense really. There's no one to ask.

Ive been pretending to be okay and acting as normal as possible, but Im actually completely heartbroken after a recent breakup. Its painful and really affecting me, to the point where I cant concentrate at work, Ive lost my appetite, I cant sleep, and It feels as if my whole world has been turned upside down. I loved him so much. He said so many cruel things to me and it made me realize he must not have loved me the way I loved him, or he wouldnt have said such horrible things. How do I handle the heartbreak and why cant I accept that he didnt love me and just forget about him?

I've read that decreasing testosterone can be a cause. I took some herbal remedy but only grew some man boobs. Little else seemed to change. The boobs did fade away after I finished the tablets.